Monday, October 28, 2013
round four
With whom did I go out on date with this week? Name, Where & What, & Day of the Week.
Vincent
Adventures around San Francisco Financial District and Embarcadero
We started off at Whiskey Thieves, 800Larkin, Clift Hotel, 620 Jones, Bourbon and Branch, Starlight Room, Random Hotels, and the last stop was watching the Bay Bridge light show at the Embarcadero (it was his first time seeing it
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October 23, Wednesday evening around 8:00 p.m. till................................
Was I being MYSELF throughout the whole date?
Yes, but I did catch myself thinking and reminding myself to be ME. No matter what, a person will like ME for who I am. All I can do is be REAL.
Was there a connection?
Yes.
Did I learn something new about myself after the date?
I learned that I am willing to take risk and adventures even when it may lead to trouble and breaking the law.
Did I feel a "Love Pang/Butterflies" when I initially saw him?
A bit, giddy.
Additional Comments?
I've actually had previous dates with Vincent before I started this blog and I haven't seen him for maybe about a month. So, I was a anxious to see him and how the evening was going to pan out. The evening was fantastic. We were like tourist in San Francisco. We bar hopped, went into secret locations, walked around town, and tried to find access to every roof top building that we were in.
Vincent
Adventures around San Francisco Financial District and Embarcadero
We started off at Whiskey Thieves, 800Larkin, Clift Hotel, 620 Jones, Bourbon and Branch, Starlight Room, Random Hotels, and the last stop was watching the Bay Bridge light show at the Embarcadero (it was his first time seeing it
October 23, Wednesday evening around 8:00 p.m. till................................
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| one of our rooftop adventures |
How was I feeling before and during the date? Was my mind wandering off elsewhere?
I felt excited and a little anxious before the date and during the date I became more at ease. Initially, my feeling was a bit nervous because I am physically attracted to him. I did not find myself wandering off at all.Yes, but I did catch myself thinking and reminding myself to be ME. No matter what, a person will like ME for who I am. All I can do is be REAL.
Was there a connection?
Yes.
Did I learn something new about myself after the date?
I learned that I am willing to take risk and adventures even when it may lead to trouble and breaking the law.
Did I feel a "Love Pang/Butterflies" when I initially saw him?
A bit, giddy.
Additional Comments?
I've actually had previous dates with Vincent before I started this blog and I haven't seen him for maybe about a month. So, I was a anxious to see him and how the evening was going to pan out. The evening was fantastic. We were like tourist in San Francisco. We bar hopped, went into secret locations, walked around town, and tried to find access to every roof top building that we were in.
Monday, October 21, 2013
round three
With whom did I go out on date with this week? Name, Where & What, & Day of the Week.
Loren
One Drink at Beretta in San Francisco
October 18, Friday evening around 9:00 p.m.
How was I feeling before and during the date? Was my mind wandering off elsewhere?
I felt pretty good before meeting up with Loren. I had a drink with my co-workers right after work, so that may have loosened me up a little.
During the date, I felt natural and at ease.
I did not feel my mind wander off at all, but sometimes there where times of silence.
I felt that I was being myself. We got a long well and we had a few things in common.
Was there a connection?
I felt a connection with Loren, but more as friends.
Did I learn something new about myself after the date?
I learned on this date that when there is a connection and I vibe with a person I am more engaged and attentive. One of my criteria in going out with these gents is that I have a 5'11 height minimum to date someone. So, I also learned that I am not shallow and willing to meet new people no matter what.
Did I feel a "Love Pang/Butterflies" when I initially saw him?
No. He was handsome, but too short. I knew this prior to meeting him.
Additional Comments?
The nice thing about this date is that it was easy. Loren had prior plans to meet with his friends after we had a drink. So, I felt there was no pressure at all. He also extended an invite to go to a James Blake concert with him the next day if I was interested, but I was unable to go due to homework.
round two
With whom did I go out on date with this week? Name, Where & What, & Day of the Week.
Niero
Drinks at Bar called The Phone Booth in San Francisco
I had water the entire time, but he surprised me with Sprite when I showed up because my stomach was not feeling well before I met with him. I was actually too afraid to drink it because of the fear of it being laced with a potential date drug)
October 16, Wednesday evening around 11:30 p.m.
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| signage above the bar says "trust no man" |
I actually wasn't sure if I was going to meet up with Niero, but I was able to find my third wind. I had a dinner date with my girlfriend Sarah prior to meeting him and the German food wasn't agreeing with my stomach. I figured I needed to go out on this date in order to fulfill this week's blog post. I was actually tired and fickle before leaving my house to meet him.
During the date, I felt that my attention span was not totally there. I don't know if it was because I was tired, my stomach pains, or he was trying to hard to impress me. During the whole conversation, he kept apologizing for every little thing and it was a semi turn off.
Honestly, I did feel that my mind was wandering off here and there. I was distracted and thinking only if I could have a glass of whiskey right about now.
Was I being MYSELF throughout the whole date?
I felt that I was being myself, but then I felt myself treating him like a client. So, I was just sitting there listening to his stories and agreeing to what he would say.
Was there a connection?
I did not feel any connection with Niero.
Did I learn something new about myself after the date?
I learned on this date that I had trust issues. I wasn't sure if I should've drank the Sprite that he bought for me and I was also afraid of leaving my water with him as well when I would use the restroom.
Did I feel a "Love Pang/Butterflies" when I initially saw him?
No.
Additional Comments?
He tried to invite me over to his house after the bar was closing, but he was a gentleman to offer me an Uber cab and/or walk me to my car. I denied all three. We hugged when we parted and he mentioned that he would like to see me again and I replied "ok." I'm not sure though if I can follow through with that. This is one thing I have to learn on this journey is not to be too nice and lead anyone on if I am not feeling the same way as the other person.
Sunday, October 13, 2013
round one
With whom did I go out on date with this week? Name, Where & What, & Day of the Week.
Jason
Dinner at Bar Agricole. Drinks & Dancing at Audio Discotech in San Francisco
October 11, Friday evening around 10:00 p.m.
How was I feeling before and during the date? Was my mind wandering off elsewhere?
Initially I thought the date was going to be cancelled. Jason and I were chatting earlier in the week and we planned for Friday. I wanted to ask him during the day if we were still on for the evening, but all my co-workers/girlfriends were giving me the advice not to because it will seem like I was anticipating. Now, this is where I don't understand the "dating game?" Am I suppose to be real or play it off as if I don't care?
Jason eventually texted that he is down to have a late dinner with me even though he was busy all day driving around town and he got his seventh wind after taking a shower. I felt it was because he tried to postpone and I told him that I was busy next week and it was his only chance to see me.
I felt a little nervous before the date and was leery if I should meet him at the restaurant or have him pick me up. I went with my gut and allowed him to pick me up.
During the date I felt it was easy breezy and we had a good conversation and he was pretty impressive. I did not feel my mind was wandering off at all. I was very attentive to him and I listened to everything that he shared.
Was I being MYSELF throughout the whole date?
I felt that I was being myself. I was being real and honest. I even told him straight up that he was a little high strung. He was like an hyper energizer bunny. He took no offense to it at all. I felt that there was nothing to hide. I shared past dating experiences with him and I did not feel uncomfortable at all.
Was there a connection?
I felt that there was a connection. We had great conversations and I felt that there wasn't a dull moment or any awkward silences. We were out to have fun and I think we succeeded.
Did I learn something new about myself after the date?
I learned on this date that I start to take initiative and become assertive, taking control on what is going to happen next.
Did I feel a "Love Pang/Butterflies" when I initially saw him?
No.
Additional Comments?
Overall it was a great time and he proved himself as a true gentleman, chivalry was not dead. He even stepped out of the car to open my door when I approached his vehicle. He also did not try to make any moves on me.
He kept reiterating all night that dating/connections should not be "forced" if it happens it will happen and not to force situations. I really liked that. I felt in my last dating scenario, I may have forced it a little and that is why I am no longer seeing that person.
Jason
Dinner at Bar Agricole. Drinks & Dancing at Audio Discotech in San Francisco
October 11, Friday evening around 10:00 p.m.
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| a new whisky we tried together russell reserve bourbon |
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| his and her beakers ;) - I like the fact that it looks as though they are courting |
How was I feeling before and during the date? Was my mind wandering off elsewhere?
Initially I thought the date was going to be cancelled. Jason and I were chatting earlier in the week and we planned for Friday. I wanted to ask him during the day if we were still on for the evening, but all my co-workers/girlfriends were giving me the advice not to because it will seem like I was anticipating. Now, this is where I don't understand the "dating game?" Am I suppose to be real or play it off as if I don't care?
Jason eventually texted that he is down to have a late dinner with me even though he was busy all day driving around town and he got his seventh wind after taking a shower. I felt it was because he tried to postpone and I told him that I was busy next week and it was his only chance to see me.
I felt a little nervous before the date and was leery if I should meet him at the restaurant or have him pick me up. I went with my gut and allowed him to pick me up.
During the date I felt it was easy breezy and we had a good conversation and he was pretty impressive. I did not feel my mind was wandering off at all. I was very attentive to him and I listened to everything that he shared.
Was I being MYSELF throughout the whole date?
I felt that I was being myself. I was being real and honest. I even told him straight up that he was a little high strung. He was like an hyper energizer bunny. He took no offense to it at all. I felt that there was nothing to hide. I shared past dating experiences with him and I did not feel uncomfortable at all.
Was there a connection?
I felt that there was a connection. We had great conversations and I felt that there wasn't a dull moment or any awkward silences. We were out to have fun and I think we succeeded.
Did I learn something new about myself after the date?
I learned on this date that I start to take initiative and become assertive, taking control on what is going to happen next.
Did I feel a "Love Pang/Butterflies" when I initially saw him?
No.
Additional Comments?
Overall it was a great time and he proved himself as a true gentleman, chivalry was not dead. He even stepped out of the car to open my door when I approached his vehicle. He also did not try to make any moves on me.
He kept reiterating all night that dating/connections should not be "forced" if it happens it will happen and not to force situations. I really liked that. I felt in my last dating scenario, I may have forced it a little and that is why I am no longer seeing that person.
Sunday, October 6, 2013
quote of the day
A gent named Adam on Tinder (mobile dating website) posted this as their tagline:
"Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option."
It immediately caught my attention and I am truly going to live by this quote from now on.
Adam and I actually chatted for a bit on the site and it so happens he lives in Hawaii and was in San Francisco for only the weekend to watch the Oakland A's and 49ers play. I asked him if he came up with the quote himself and he said his mother shared it with him. I believe that these are great words to live by.
There will be "No Expectations" as I start this project/journey.
"Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option."
It immediately caught my attention and I am truly going to live by this quote from now on.
Adam and I actually chatted for a bit on the site and it so happens he lives in Hawaii and was in San Francisco for only the weekend to watch the Oakland A's and 49ers play. I asked him if he came up with the quote himself and he said his mother shared it with him. I believe that these are great words to live by.
There will be "No Expectations" as I start this project/journey.
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